EP9 - The Practical Mystic
[00:00:00] Today's episode, I'm going to talk about aligned confidence. The confidence that doesn't need to prove anything. It just is. It's our most natural state of being, the easiest thing in the world. So why does it feel like the hardest thing on earth some days to find the confidence to do the most simple things?
Hi, I am Nicki Kuuramn. Welcome to the Practical Mystic Podcast. This is a place where we have aligned conversations around how to bring the mystic into your everyday life. How to live in alignment with your own spirituality, your own intuition, your own soul guidance, and mash that up with all the noise of the modern world.
If you are struggling with confidence right now, I want you to know that it's not from a lack of doing. It's not from the fact that you're not doing [00:01:00] enough. It is literally because you are not being the truest version of yourself enough.
When we are our truest, most natural, self-aligned, confident self. Grace. Ease is effortless. The pushing, the striving, the doubts, the indecision. They don't come from a lack of confidence. They come from a lack of alignment. If you find yourself overthinking simple decisions, stressed out over the simplest of things, even what to have for dinner.
It is because your nervous system is overloaded with decision fatigue, noise, and often comparing yourself to other people. What if you didn't have to overthink that anymore? [00:02:00] What if you could just say yes and trust that the right things that are meant for you come to you? Because what's meant for you will never pass you by.
If it's truly meant for you, it will always find you. You might quietly compare yourself to others thinking, I wish I had their confidence. I wish I could make it look that easy. But the truth is that most of the time they've had to work for that too, unless it's something that's completely in their skill set and they do it effortlessly.
The genius zone, so to speak. People ask me all the time how I communicate with the other side or the spiritual world. I can't really tell you how I do it. I've been doing it my whole life. It's as easy as breathing to me
But I've never really had to work at it. I just had to remember that I had that connection. [00:03:00] Confidence isn't something that you learn. It's something that you remember. It's the truest state of your beingness with the skills that you always have. We are each psychic. We are each able to have intuition and connect with something beyond our physical mind.
We know that energy moves through us. We can experience life force energy animating and moving every cell in our being. It's when we try to get in the way, when we try to figure it out, sometimes we overcomplicate things and the pushing and the striving. It's all part of a game of self-doubt. And that's the biggest liable confidence is something most of us think we're supposed to have, right?
We're told to be more confident to get [00:04:00] out there and just do it. To speak confidently, to have no fear to face your fears and do it anyway. But very few of us are taught how to have confidence. I remember hearing a quote from Dan Sullivan a year or so ago. And he was talking about the difference between courage and confidence.
And that confidence feels good. But we need courage in order to try something new. We, we are not competent and confident in something that is brand new to us. Think about when you first learned to ride a bike or drive a car. You had to think about all the things. It was wobbly, it was bumpy. You had to learn it.
You had to have courage. to try something new. Now we can only have [00:05:00] courage and that courage is like a muscle, right? We have to build up strength and resilience in it. We have to try and fail and try and fail, and that takes so much courage.
That's not confidence. Confidence comes from competency when we're good at something, and it's really easy to have confidence when we are effortlessly good at something, an aligned confidence. Is when we are effortlessly good at being ourselves, sitting back in our soul seat, sitting back in the back of our body where we are connected to all it is in our own alignment.
That version of us is fantastic. It's so easy to walk into a room with people that you love versus walking into a room with strangers. It's effortless, it's easy. the confidence you have from something that [00:06:00] you do with people that you love in a state of ease, you don't even think about.
You just do. It's like now when we drive a car or ride a bike, we don't have to think about it anymore. It's just become our own competence. It's become who we are. And so we look to confidence as having to be something we have to get good at. You can get better at being courageous. You can get better at taking risks and stretching your resilience, but you can't necessarily force confidence.
It has to come from competence and or a state of beingness. And sometimes both. Most of us were taught that confidence is external, that it was something that we had to learn perhaps like learning to read or write. I [00:07:00] know when I was little at school, we talked about, learning how to be confident
Ā I never really understood or appreciated the idea of celebrating small wins. over the last year or so, I've noticed that when I celebrate the steps that I've taken and the small wins I gather.
More courage to take more steps because I've had a little win that's built my competency I've had a little bit of confidence and I'm ready to take another step. Again, it's the same thing when we exercise. We exercise for strengthening our stress response, strengthening our ability to cope under pressure
As we try new things, we are making little stresses on the body and that helps us prepare for bigger stresses, and that's how we build resilience is these little steps lead to more action And over time [00:08:00] when we slow down our physical activity or perhaps we're retiring, we're not using the same skills anymore.
We see the loss of confidence in people in order to take a courageous step. Again, that starts to slow down, and I think naturally as we age, we can become more fearful, but also with the level of anxiety and stress in the world. Right now, people are on high alert and they are very indecisive, and they're trying to make decisions based on past known realities that aren't here yet.
The biggest piece that we're all missing is trusting our soul self. Sitting back in the body, trusting what comes through. Is this the right decision for me on all levels When something's right for you, when you are in alignment with it, it is so effortless to just move through and toward it.[00:09:00]
It's like your whole body's just saying, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. I want that. And when it's not, when it's not that, ah, yes, it feels clunky and hard and difficult and that you're forcing it all of the time,
And when you can pause in that moment and tune back in and listen, what do I need to remember here?
What is it that I'm trying to reach or push or have confidence around? That is hard work. And compare that to something that is so effortless and easy, you don't even have to think about it. And just compare those two feelings in your body. What does that feel like? Which ones a Yeah, and which ones a, oh, I want that perhaps, or, I really desire it, but it's not [00:10:00] coming as easily.
We have to look at things a different way. We have to come back into alignment. Is this meant for me right now or is there something else that I haven't considered yet? Of course, there's plenty of opportunities that we can take or feel like we should have taken in hindsight.
But if it was really meant for you in that moment, if you were aligned to it, it won't pass you by. I think jealousy is a really interesting, concept around confidence too, because we can be quite envious of somebody who looks like they have it all or have what we want.
And I remember listening to Abraham Hicks years ago and they said that when jealousy or envy shows up for you, it just means that it's in your field of possibility. You might not be aligned with it yet. It might not be easy for you. You might still have to work at it or take some courageous [00:11:00] steps to gain that competency.
But if you really want it and it's in your field, it won't pass you by. And so we have to play with courage and confidence. They're two sides of the same coin. You cannot have one without the other. Taking moments of courage, gaining competence, stretching out with confidence, trying new things, experiencing making that easy and effortless comes back into the centre of the coin.
And as we keep extending ourselves in both directions, we get better and better at it. But rarely are we confident, consciously. The first time we try something, watching little babies try to take their first steps and they [00:12:00] fall down over and over again. They don't give up. They eventually figure it out.
They didn't take a course or over prepare They just took some steps and they kept trying and with each little win, every time they got better and better at it, their confidence grew until it just becomes us.
When we're in aligned confidence, we are effortlessly ourselves. And we can gather in more and more things that become more and more true to us, that stay in our aligned confidence, but they stem from remembering who we are staying aligned with what's true for us.
Taking and noticing the courage and the bravery and the steps and the resilience that it takes to find that competence. And looking at it as a bigger picture. It's not just you lacking some bravery to face something that you don't like doing. [00:13:00] There's lots of things we don't like doing every day,
Ā in order to have what we want. We have to expand our world. There's no truer expression than life begins at the edge of our comfort zone. If we are only operating in the comfort zone, our world becomes smaller and smaller of things that are comfortable for us.
If we want something different, we have to do something differently. Every time you take one small step. Every time you acknowledge that step, you bring it back into your own awareness and your own sovereign self and you go, ah, look at that. I did that thing today. I didn't know that I could do that.
You're building resilience. You're telling your soul self. Ah yeah, that you are remembering who you are, the truth of who you are, the truth of what you can [00:14:00] do.
Don't get caught up in comparing your journey with anyone else's because it's never going to be the same. You are never going to have the exact same experiences as somebody else. You are not. The only authority you have is your own inner authority.
Tuning back in, aligning to your own truths, your own values. Living from integrity and alignment is the easiest thing on earth. We just don't get distracted by the noise, so have the confidence. Of being you, of being a human being on this planet, not by having to do anything, but by having to sit back, closing your eyes, taking a deep breath, and finding your own alignment.[00:15:00]
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